Being a wife.

My beautiful lady friend readers, I have been learning an extremely valuable lesson during the time I've spent at home this first year of marriage. I share a lot of pictures of accessories I make and items I refinish, but I want to challenge you to accessorize yourselves in something much deeper than outer adornments and jewelry. 

Accessorize yourself, my beautiful friend, with respecting your husband.

Respect is not a word often used or taught anymore, maybe in the context of authority or teachers, but somehow we've lost the words honor, respect, admire when it comes to our family and our especially our husbands. We need to sit and rest on that thought, let it soak in.

Many wives talk negatively behind their husbands' back, they feel unloved and under appreciated so they think it's ok to sit around jabbing at their husbands to their girlfriends. Many wives respond snippy when their husbands ask them to do something for them. They don't feel treated right so they punish their husbands by snipping back or giving the silent treatment. And many wives show their husbands contempt when they believe their husband is lazy or careless. They ignore them, or worse, they treat them like a child.

A BIG one in our culture now is neglecting our husbands. Because women are all about their careers and pursuing the "do it all" mentality, in the process, their husbands are being neglected. The wife gives her best effort and energy to her day job, rushing around doing errands after work and coming
home completely drained.

Busyness + Neglect = division in marriage and eventual divorce

I am guilty of all of these at some point in our first months of marriage. I'm not here to preach to you. Simply to challenge you with what I've thankfully started to learn early on.

I've seen this all too much over my growing up years and if I've stayed home this year just to learn to respect Sam then it was worth far more than any career I could've pursued. We still have a lot to learn and I still fail in respecting him, but the beauty in it all, I can get back up and ask him for forgiveness. Ladies, it's OK to stay home and be a wife, in fact, I believe it's an honorable decision if that's what you choose. Your marriage is worth far more than any other pursuit.

It just breaks my heart what disrespect does to a man. It destroys the very nature of who they were created to be. God created men to thrive at their work, to provide for their family, to feel honored in their home, and to know their wife LIKES them. Maybe you were like us when you were dating and remember telling your husband you like LIKE him, like more than a friend. Remind yourself of the times when you were sweet and flirty with each other.

Challenge: Go home tonight.....and tell your husband....."Honey, I respect you". Tell him you like him. See how he responds in the hours, days to follow. We need our husbands to love us, they need us to respect them. Sit with him, do an activity he enjoys, appreciate his hard work and faithfulness to go to work everyday, tell him you like him. He needs you, do you realize that?

Do you want to shatter who he is or build him up as a man?

For further insight read the book "Love & Respect" By: Emerson Eggerichs and I'll be sharing more as time goes on.